Monday, May 05, 2008

Control-Part 1

You know the scripture. You’ve probably heard it taught a million times. Genesis 3:16. “To the woman He said, …yet your desire shall be for your husband”.

That word “desire” is from a Hebrew word, pronounced tesh-oo-kwah, meaning longing, craving, like a beast wanting to devour. (whew!) It comes from a root word meaning overflowing, like non-stop liquid continually being poured into a glass. It seems to be a much different definition than the meaning we usually apply to the word “desire”.

Yes. Our desire is for him…to control him. It’s a curse from our mother, Eve. (Thanks, Eve—do you ever find yourself thinkin’, man, wish that’d been me there with Adam. I never would have eaten that fruit! Just put me in that garden. I know how to handle it! See? We are controllers! )

And it’s not just to control our husbands, but everything, and everyone, whether we’re married or not. It’s our nature. And, well… we have good ideas about how things should go, right? And if things go our way, then life is not so scary.

Do you agree or disagree with the interpretation of this word “desire”?

What teachings have you heard on Genesis 3:16?

Is controlling part of our natural nature?

10 comments:

Mandy said...

It drives almost everything I do. I always have a better plan :)

Cindy Beall said...

Yeah, I think your interpretation is right on. I've heard this "controlling your man" thing before. I see it in me but work hard not to be a dripping faucet, you know?

erin said...

This is exactly what God intended to curse us with. Beware that control isn't always in your face. I've seen a lot of "quiet" women be very controling by manipulation. I don't have that problem - I'm very open, but have a great mentor who has taught me not to control. ;)

Abbi said...

I think being in control is a driving force in our society--we're told that the only way to get ahead in life is to grab the bull by the horns and get what we want by clawing our way to the top. If that's not a control issue, I don't know what is.

I'm with Mandy--when I am tempted to 'control', it's usually because I believe my plan is 'better.'

Kim Heinecke said...

I attempt to control when I feel insecure about something. It hasn't worked for me one time... :)

Donna said...

I agree. Have you been reading my thoughts? I declare I have been thinking on this very thing over the last week! The Lord has been showing me I have way more issues on being a contoller than I thought.

Natalie Witcher said...

I don't have a real deep desire to controm the hubs. Sometimes I want it my way...is that the same thing?! hee hee

mandy said...

ugh... you're hurtin' me Mama Meadows - you're hurtin' me!!!

Robin Meadows said...

Thanks for all your comments. It's hard stuff---and I agree with erin (what a coincidence...LOL). Control can be very subtle.

Kim - it IS an insecurity, isn't it!

shanna said...

If my husband would let me I would definitely be running out household :)