Eyes Wide Open: Avoiding the Heartbreak of Emotional Promiscuity by Brienne Murk
This book talks about giving your heart away, too much, too soon, and ways to avoid that happening.
I know, the title is a little dramatic. But, this is a book I highly recommend if:
*you are a parent of kids around age 10 and above
*you work with kids that age
*you lost your heart at an early age and want to know how you may have avoided the emotional pain you experienced
I purchased three books. I have my boys (14 & 16) reading it right along with me, and we discuss what we have read. (well, I talk, they listen....kinda) :)
My boys roll their eyes, and think it is "stupid and unnecessary". They don't see the value in learning how to guard their hearts. But, I do (and I get to choose the subjects we learn....so....). I think it is extremely necessary, and I know they are learning some important truths, whether they want to admit it, or not. I've heard them talk about the futility of the boy/girl relationships of some of their young friends.
Here are a few tid-bits from the book:
- When we don't guard our hearts, it can be difficult to know where to draw the line on an emotional connection.
- We can become entangled in emotions when we follow our hearts instead of our heads.
- I have the choice to live according to what is true or according to how I feel.
- Building a relationship on feelings-no matter how exciting they are- is a recipe for disaster.
- Whoever controls your emotions controls you.
- There is no such thing as "casual dating".
We've even been discussing how dating casually is like practicing for divorce and how easy it is for girls, particularly, to become emotionally connected to guys.
I don't totally accept and agree with all the premises and thoughts in this book, but overall, the message is full of the truth that if you're not aware of how easy it is to lose your heart too soon, it may just happen to you.
As in everything we teach them, I don't really know the choices they'll make. I don't know if they'll choose to guard their heart, or if they'll wait to date until they believe the relationship will be for a life-time. But, Dirk and I do want them to be equipped with the truth and we pray they'll choose what's best.
For now, we'll press on and continue to read and discuss. (well, I'll talk...) :)
What do you think about dating?
Did you ever suffer emotional pain from giving your heart away too soon?