tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19304564.post28723390110205111..comments2023-05-09T04:32:29.368-05:00Comments on OVERWHELMED BY MY BLESSINGS: Parenting Towards Partnership (Part 2)Robin Meadowshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00453257548258134246noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19304564.post-7423670679793784812009-03-12T05:48:09.000-05:002009-03-12T05:48:09.000-05:00These are great! thanks!These are great! thanks!Natalie @ I AM (not)http://nataliewitcher.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19304564.post-77944581891575026302009-03-12T10:14:25.000-05:002009-03-12T10:14:25.000-05:00Thanks for both the posts. My son is eleven and is...Thanks for both the posts. My son is eleven and is an only child. We therefore spend a lot of time together and I think our greatest partnership has been through service and activity. I have come to learn that he loves to see me doing things for others and being part of it. I am careful to give him room to be his own person and treat him as the young adult he is becoming while at the same time staying ultimately as his dad.David Copelandhttp://davidnokc.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19304564.post-77326631460020891002009-03-12T11:17:03.000-05:002009-03-12T11:17:03.000-05:00My two oldest have grown into young men without me...My two oldest have grown into young men without me even realizing it, since my husband passed away when they were just 14 and 15. Now they are 18 and almost 19! <br><br>Any suggestions for "partnering" with them now? As a single mom, I'm struggling with this very thing. We go to church together, we do day trips as a family; but what can you do with an older teen son?? They're interests are so different, too. I do praise the Lord that we all remain very close as a family.<br><br>Thanks so much for your post!!<br><br>WendyWendyhttp://www.toddjradlememorial.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19304564.post-55712256245074715872009-03-12T12:02:40.000-05:002009-03-12T12:02:40.000-05:00Wendy, I would help them to find their passion. C...Wendy, I would help them to find their passion. Cultivate that within your family. With your situation I'm sure they have been responsible as being father figures for the younger ones. Out of neccesity they probably have had to do this. <br>Build on this because for God's reasons your husband could not be there. I have seen kid's thrust into situations like yours that have been great influences with their siblings and their own families. <br>If they are not into college think about starting a business and helping them to become entrepenuers. That will teach you a lot too. <br>If they want to go to college make sure they know what they are going for. Be close to them so that bridge between them and you and the younger ones can stay strong. <br>Be careful about letting things (other influences) come in between them and the family. Their interests have to be yours and the rest of the families to keep developing that relationship with them. We will pray for you. DirkDirknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19304564.post-28445476414694914452009-03-12T14:09:22.000-05:002009-03-12T14:09:22.000-05:00I can't thank you enough. This is good stuff,...I can't thank you enough. This is good stuff, and the Lord knew I was searching and needed this! God is amazing! <br><br>My oldest is currently attending a college nearby and commuting, so we are still close. My 18 year old is a senior this year, and plans to work for my nephew after graduating. I'm not interested in computer engineering nor landscaping, but somehow God is still allowing us to stay close! <br><br>Thank you for your "warning" of outside influences. Do girlfriends count? :) I do appreciate your writing and this blog so much! Thank you so much, thank you for your prayers, and keep up the good work!!!<br><br>WendyWendyhttp://www.toddjradlememorial.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19304564.post-4397269452141727092009-03-12T18:28:26.000-05:002009-03-12T18:28:26.000-05:00I can't wait for the time that we can "Pa...I can't wait for the time that we can "Partner" with our kids. I crave an adult friendship with them. I love them as people.<br><br>Unfortunately I can't have that relationship with them now but as I have told them. As much as I want to be your friend....Right now you NEED me as a parent. So for now my job is to guide, teach, supervise and discipline/hold them accountable.<br><br>I have faith that they in the end will realize that we as their parents were strict for a reason. I figure I must be doing something right when I hear my 13 y/o daughter say "well all the other kids get too" and I continue to say no. I talk with her and discuss why we say no. Her and I usually spend time praying together about it. <br><br>I try to never say no and not explain why. I never liked the answer of "Because I said so". :)Theresahttp://www.theresatrotter.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19304564.post-20003326172342240022009-03-13T03:16:10.000-05:002009-03-13T03:16:10.000-05:00At 26, it still means so much to me when my parent...At 26, it still means so much to me when my parents even ASK about the things I'm interested in. That alone can be 'partnering', because I feel their support. They are states away, so it's hard for them to be truly involved, but just the sign of interest means a lot.<br><br>You and Robin are GREAT at this. Your kids get the level of independence and trust that correlates with their age/position in life, and they've all turned out so great thanks to the freedom you've allowed them.<br><br>On a personal note, I love partnering with this family!! We are all better together!! Thanks for leading us!Abbihttp://abbiz.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.com