Saturday, Dirk and I had the opportunity to share during three breakout sessions during a marriage seminar. This is the hand-out Dirk compiled for the men. Have any more thoughts or suggestions to add? Wives, your input is encouraged too!
For the Men
LOVE your wife…with actions and words. Ex: open her car door, praying, reading your Bible, tithe, help put the children to bed.
Be the head…not the tail! (or the butt) Spiritually lead her!
Tell her she’s beautiful.
Listen better….turn off the TV or gaming system.
Write love notes
Bring small gifts…it really is the thought that counts!
Give her longer kisses…not just the peck on your way out the door.
Leave work at work.
Continue to pursue her…even though you’ve already caught her.
Hold her hand.
E-mail and text her
Take her on surprise dates
Take care of the cars
Finish those home repair projects (or hire someone to finish them)
Read your Bible and pray out loud for your family
Give her lots of cuddle time
Be her best friend
Tell her you love her often….and tell her why.
Share your dreams with her: Family Vision
LOVE IT!
ReplyDeleteThank you. I'll definitely will do this. God bless
ReplyDeleteI don't like little gifts. At all. And my husband and I are equal in God's sight. We lead together. Kephale in Greek didn't take on the additional meaning of head that we give it in English until a long time after the New Testament was written. It's incorrect to take those verses to mean husbands lead and wives follow.
ReplyDeleteI think the other ideas are lovely. Although many wives, including myself, prefer the outdoor chores and household repairs and would much rather have their husbands cook a meal so they can finish projects.
I love it but it's not a reality for most marrieds. I've got Christian (I thank God for that constantly), the door opening paragraph and the game system/tv off as well he takes care of the cars. That's quite a lot. Honestly like 1/3 of the population of women I was physically abused for years so I cannot stand to be touched by him. It's weird bcz I do carry abiding affection for him. At our age, 60 the facts regarding menopause, such a truly descriptive word bcz of agonizing physical pain all of us old gals get to have upon engaging it's a mite point. I have a massage therapist weekly and that is really what I want to work out the muscle memory from my childhood which never goes away. I am blessed in having a Christian husband but I wonder at our bodies' decomposition and how marital relations are given a window by God or a sell by date. Love, love, love I know it's the greatest commandment.
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ReplyDeleteLove it but I am a husband of one like the unknown writer. I do most of the things with a few excepts. The things that the unknown dealt with mine dealt with in part, I can’t do some of the things I would like like the cuddling and etc. I am in a fase of life where I want to do things she doesn’t want too. She wants something I don’t seem to understand. I guess more mental, spiritual less physical? But she can’t are won’t tell me specifily. Any suggestions?
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