Bad fathering can have a devastating impact on a family not just for the here and now but for future generations. A bad father is not just limited to verbal abuse or physical abuse towards his wife and kids. There is also the absent father or the unintentional father. Even fathers that live eat and sleep in their own house can be uninvolved to a point where the damage can be disastrous.
Plenty of information exposing a bad father is talked about every day in our society but what about good fathering? Fathering that will have a positive effect on our families?
I know for me, the first step is recognizing from where I came. Most guys, if they come from a vexed past, don't want to admit to the way they were brought up or they will gloss over the real facts and not accept that they may have deficiencies. And then we are very prideful to a point of not wanting any help thus creating all kinds of problems. But it doesn't have to end there. It must not end there if we want to change our ways and the direction and heritage of our families.
The next step is asking and finding answers to two "simple" questions.
Why am I here?
And what am I going to do about being here?
Once you can get a handle on these ideas you begin to put into place the attitudes you have to have to be a good father and husband.
I want to talk about those attitudes in the future. But what about now? Can you answer those two little questions guys?
Why am I here? And what am I going to do about being here?
How about you women? Did your father give you peace and security?