Today, we'll finish this series with some answers, hopefully, to how we can overcome hurt feelings and offenses. We all will be hurt. It's a fact when you open your heart to love.
But, can we learn to recognize our response, identify the real offense and then quickly forgive? I think so. And our relationships will be healthier for it.
Here are a few of my thoughts:
*Recognize the evil spirit behind the offense. Satan wants to destroy you and your relationships. Be aware of how badly he wants you to take things personally.
*Know that it is unusual for someone to calculate and purposefully hurt another person. It does happen. But, usually it is not intentional.
*Don't trust your feelings. Even though we can't help our feelings, we can take the necessary steps to prevent those feelings from fueling our emotions. (The heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it? -Jer. 17:9)
*Be quick to bottom-line your offense. Don't attach it to past circumstances, other feelings of rejection, or blow it out of proportion.
*Wait to speak about your offense until you've had time to sort it out. You don't want to say something you regret.
*Quickly forgive offenses. Otherwise you'll be dealing with a much larger issue: bitterness. (Prov. 17:9; Prov. 19:11)
What are your thoughts on overcoming offenses?